Please Don't Let This Happen to Your Partner!!!
ok i try to keep my mouth shut, but i can't help it. I feel entitled. What makes a good lead (or follow for that matter)? Not brut force, not yanking and pulling with your arms, not holding the hands like a vice, not telepathy, not second guessing, not fancy footwork, but simply, the direction of your body in relation to hers and in relation to your own core. You will knock her off her core if you are not in your own core. You want her to do something? do it yourself in mirror image. Be CONNECTED, grounded, yourself first. AND be spring loaded for motion at the same time. sorry but i see so much nonsense, often just due to giddy headed self inflation out there that is dangerous and exhausting to follow or lead such a person. Save experimentation for classes or mutual learning environments. Do moves that are appropriate for your level. Get grounded in the music. You can't keep the beat? Listen more to the music. Arms & hands should be loose & sensitive and used as sensors through which the direction of the body is communicated, but not as "doers". Keep your elbows either HIGH or LOW, NOT eye level!!!! That's my rant. (OK I admit, i've been guilty of all these things.)